A Decade of marriage (The story so far…..).

What’ll ten years of marriage do to you? Well it can be different from person to person. But for me it has changed me from a hopeless cynic to a reluctant believer (in marriage that is). I’m still a cynic in so many other things that matters.

So many things have changed yet so many have remained the same. My husband who was a complete stranger to me back then has become someone I can’t think apart from me now. Then there is my son who came to my life and consumed it whole and I can’t imagine a time when he was not present in my life. From a clueless girl I’ve become a wife and then a mother and entered a whole new phase.

Why is it that for some, marriage works and for some it’s a challenge? It can be pure luck, if the cosmic forces conspired to give me a good chance. Or maybe because I assumed I’ll remain single and never really thought enough of how my future husband should or shouldn’t be. As the saying goes “Expectation reduces joy”, so without any such anticipation whatever I got is a bonus. But mainly it’s because my husband was there for me all the time trying hard to make it work.

 The sense of compatibility or wavelength was always strong in us and he never takes me for granted. He can almost always say what goes in my mind. And he’s very clever to work around a problem without ever acknowledging it as one. He gave me the chance to finally play the lead role than a supporting character in my own life.

So as one decade of marriage comes to an end and a couple of more in sight I think we’ve done a good job. Even now we’re like that old couples who finish each other’s sentences, laugh at each other’s silly jokes and can sense if the other one is planning a surprise even before they hatch the plan. I think in the coming ten years along with our increasing waistlines and receding hairlines we’ll start looking alike also(scary).

I’m still not in the blissful position as to advice that everyone should get married but it’s worth a thought. As marriage will give you someone who can be there to witness your life in all it’s up and down’s and be there for you at the end of the day.

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Homealone 2017

Eventhough the year started with the usual (mostly ambitious)promises to self 2 days into the new year I found myself confined to my home rather restricted inside the bed room with a rather frustrating and miserable illness ala the Chickenpox . I evaded it all these years and finally it caught up with me.

So after 2 miserable weeks and a body fully covered with scars I am finally ready to venture out today.

Hope the rest of the year see less actions of this nature . let’s see .

City n its people

Does a city makes its people or is it the other way around ? May be it works both ways. And I’m talking about different cities n the same country.

Take the case of Mumbai n Hyderabad (I’m leaving out Delhi purposely as I don’t want another eternal Mumbai V Delhi war). Both are very different in every aspect be it culture, language, climate or work culture. But the funny thing is that whenever a person relocates to one city from the other he CHANGES gradually according to the city in which he lives.

In my case l function differently while I’m in the metro. I’m more in control , more confidant n somewhat rash n more secure here in this city where I live than in the city I left after my marriage.

So is it simply human adaptation or does these places have a mind of their own apart from its inhabitants.

 

 

To confirm or not to confirm

Ever encountered a predicament when one of your early teenage crush suddenly comes into limelight with a friend’s request on FB.

Well after some 15 years of silence this guy is asking to be your friend on Facebook. Well to my knowledge he never even considered me as an acquaintance so a ‘friend’ is honestly a reach.

Anyway we’re not the same persons we used to be and to make new friends at this age is real hard work. So this s worth a try.